The other day while training a client, I placed us in front of a mirror. I believe mirrors are a very useful tool for working out. I was mentioning that we should watch ourselves to make sure we are performing sets properly and that we should also focus on good posture. It is important for us to roll those shoulders back and keep them down. We often tend to slouch as a way of hiding and also tense up during the day, causing our shoulders to rise.
It is very important for us to maintain great posture as we get older. We also need to roll those shoulders back and not slouch, as a way to gain and portray our confidence in ourselves.
I was surprised to see my client shed a few tears and apologize, saying that she doesn’t like to look in the mirror.
This stopped me in my tracks. Here was a beautiful woman, with a wonderful personality. She is kind and full of life and to me that creates a great sense of confidence.
I myself have always had a rough relationship with mirrors. I tend to let my eyes wander in yoga classes and constantly compare myself to others. I usually see myself as much bigger or heavier than those around me. Like many of us, I tend to quickly focus on what I perceive as my flaws.
On Saturday I headed into our basement to use the new treadmill that finally arrived. After last weekend’s 14 miler that left me chafed pretty much from head to toe, I knew that I needed to wear something a bit more suitable. YEARS ago, Rock gave me a pair of Nike compression running shorts. I honestly never wore them before because I felt my legs and butt were too big.
I pulled them out for the first time and put them on and gave myself a shrug in the mirror. Rock was happy to see me using my gift for the first time and asked how they felt. He of course said they looked great.
As I ran on the treadmill, I began to notice that these shorts felt fantastic! It made me feel a bit silly for never wearing my gift.
As a coach and trainer, I often speak about how we need to love our bodies and work to gain confidence. Sure we all see faults in ourselves, but we also need to seek out and acknowledge the great things we have.
Most of the time we tend to be our harshest critics. We look around at others and believe they don’t have the same insecurities that we carry. The truth is, we all have insecurities. Many of us spend far too much time worried about what others think. We need to spend more time focused on telling ourselves what we like about us.
The reality is that most people are far more concerned with themselves and don’t have time to think about your faults. Most people don’t even see these things that we spend time hating about our bodies or whatever it may be. And generally speaking, any person who takes any time to mock or tease you, is suffering from many more insecurities than you are.
Stop worrying about what others think. Take more time to glance in the mirror and focus on what you love about you. Spend a little bit more time lingering and seek out those things you never even realized you like about you.
Stand up straight. Roll your shoulders back. And put a smile on your face. You owe it to yourself to love what you see in the mirror. If we can spend a little more time focusing on the positive, we will spend a lot more time enjoying life and loving ourselves.