It is hard to believe that I have been a Mother Runner for almost 2 years now (21 months to be exact and we are 4.5 months out from meeting our next one!). A lot has changed in those 21 months and I believe I have changed quite a bit myself.
Being a parent isn’t always easy. There is no way to prepare for the true toils of becoming a parent. First there are the sleepless nights. I knew we would be up. But I had no clue just how little sleep we would be living on during those first few months.
I’ve spent a lot of time with children over the years. We teach sports and activities for a living and I have had plenty of babysitting gigs. Regardless of the amount of experience, you quickly realize just how clueless you are. Getting to know your little baby and their personality, riding the random illnesses and sick days, and just plain figuring out how to juggle everything, takes time and patience.
I’d like to think we have figured out quite a bit so far, but every day has it’s changes and challenges. In any given day I have moments where I think our little girl is the most incredible ever, and five minutes later I’m ready for a break.
New milestones bring new challenges. Right now we are dealing with the start of those Terrible Twos. Tempers are starting to flare. The piercing screams and shouts this little munchkin can make are mystifying. I’ve done my share of Googling and reading parenting sites lately.
But the truth is, being a parent and being a Mother Runner has made me a better person and also a better runner. Sure, I have learned to live on a heck of a lot less sleep. I have also learned to let go of a few things. I love a clean house and a set schedule. I have learned that things aren’t always perfect and sometimes a little mess or a bit of randomness can lead to a great time.
When I was pregnant the first time, I worried a lot that my running would never be the same. I watched as I got bigger and my pace got slower. The good news for Mother Runners and Mom’s To Be, is that you can actually become a better and stronger runner than ever before.
Having a child is no easy feat. I once read that the act of labor takes you to the brink of where you think you cannot make it any further. It is one of the biggest physical challenges you will ever face. Being pregnant is a challenge in itself; 9 months of an evolving body is something else!
If there is a theme to this post, it is patience. Pretty much anyone who knows me would tell you I fit the bill of a Type A personality. Patience isn’t always my strong suit. Being a new parent and a Mother Runner requires a lot of patience.
To come back from being pregnant and having a baby, takes a special kind of patience. I needed to allow my body to adjust and relearn a few things.
I had to learn balance. Finding the time to get a run in most days requires some skill (especially when both parents are runners). Sometimes I have to do a shorter run. Other days I have to hit the treadmill during nap time or after Mary goes to bed. There is no time for messing around!
For all the lessons, adventures, ups and downs, I am forever grateful to Mary for making me a mom and a Mother Runner. She teaches me new things daily and brings joy to our family that we never could have imagined. She’s hilarious and exhausting and I wouldn’t change a single moment.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you! What are your best and most difficult adventures?